Choosing Happiness: A Skill to Master in Challenging Times

Happiness is often seen as a fleeting feeling, something that happens to us when circumstances are just right. But what if I told you that happiness is actually a choice? More than that, it is a skill—a skill to take every negative thought captive and redirect your mind toward peace and joy. This is especially important when life feels heavy, like during the long, cold winters many of us face in the Midwest and Northeast. The snow, ice storms, and biting cold can make it tempting to pull inward and wait for better days. But waiting alone rarely changes our outlook. Instead, we can choose to engage our minds and hearts in ways that nurture happiness, even in the midst of hardship.

Embracing Mature Thinking in Difficult Seasons

Emotional maturity is not about ignoring pain or pretending everything is fine. It’s about facing challenges with confidence and courage, knowing that mature thinking can help us conquer much of what weighs us down. When the weather outside is harsh and unrelenting, it’s easy to feel trapped by the cold and darkness. But mature thinking invites us to ask: What can I do right now to protect my heart and mind?

For me, this means recognizing that the cold weather is temporary, but my response to it can have lasting effects. Instead of hoping the snow will magically disappear overnight, I choose to find ways to warm my spirit. This might be through a hobby, a good book, or a movie set in a sunny place. Sometimes, it’s as simple as reaching out to a friend or family member for a quick chat or a surprise visit. These small acts of connection remind me that I am not alone, even when the world outside feels frozen.

A warm and inviting living room during winter

Finding Joy in Simple Connections

One of the most powerful ways to protect your heart during tough times is through connection. When the cold weather keeps us indoors, it can be tempting to isolate ourselves. But isolation often deepens feelings of sadness or loneliness. Instead, I encourage you to reach out. A text, a phone call, or even a surprise visit can brighten your day and remind you of the love that surrounds you.

Think about the last time someone reached out unexpectedly. How did it make you feel? Chances are, it lifted your spirits and gave you a sense of belonging. These moments are not just distractions; they are lifelines. They help us practice the skill of choosing happiness by focusing on what truly matters—relationships and love.

If you’re unsure where to start, try making a list of people you haven’t connected with in a while. Then, pick one name and send a simple message. You might be surprised at how much joy this small step can bring to both of you.

Redirecting Your Thoughts: Practical Steps to Take Every Negative Thought Captive

The phrase “take every negative thought captive” is a powerful reminder that we have control over our minds. Negative thoughts can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to dictate our emotions or actions. Here are some practical steps to help you master this skill:

1. Recognize the Thought - When a negative thought arises, pause and identify it. Naming it gives you power over it.

2. Challenge the Thought - Ask yourself if the thought is true or if it’s an exaggerated fear or worry.

3. Replace the Thought - Find a positive or hopeful truth to replace the negative one. For example, instead of thinking, “I can’t handle this cold,” try, “I am finding ways to stay warm and safe.”

4. Focus on Gratitude - Shift your attention to things you are thankful for, no matter how small.

5. Engage in a Positive Activity - Distract your mind with something uplifting, like reading a favorite passage, listening to music, or praying.

   
   

By practicing these steps regularly, you build the skill of mature thinking. It becomes easier to face challenges with a calm and hopeful heart.

A journal open for writing positive thoughts and reflections

The Power of Faith in Navigating Life’s Challenges

Faith can be a steady anchor when life feels stormy. It offers a perspective that goes beyond the immediate difficulties and points us toward hope and healing. When grief or hardship weighs heavily, turning to spiritual practices can provide comfort and strength.

For those seeking faith-based guidance, remember that happiness is not about ignoring pain but about trusting that God’s love and wisdom can guide you through. Prayer, meditation on scripture, and fellowship with others who share your beliefs can deepen your resilience.

One way to nurture your faith is to memorize or reflect on verses that speak to God’s presence in hard times. Verses like Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit,” remind us that we are never truly alone.

Choosing Happiness Is Your Choice

As you face the cold and challenges of life, remember that happiness is a choice you can make every day. It is a skill that grows stronger with practice. You don’t have to wait for perfect circumstances to feel joy. Instead, you can choose to protect your heart with connections, redirect your thoughts, and lean on your faith.

So, what will you choose today? Will you pull inward and wait for the storm to pass, or will you reach out, engage your mind, and embrace the warmth of connection and hope? The choice is yours, and with each small step, you build a life filled with peace and happiness.

Remember, On To Maturity is here to support you on this journey, offering encouragement and biblical wisdom to help you navigate life’s challenges with grace and strength.

Thank you for spending this time reflecting with me. May your days be filled with moments of joy, even in the coldest seasons.